THURSDAY, JULY 2, 2009 AT 5:53PM POSTED IN PERSONAL, PRAYERSEDIT I was sent this poem by a dear friend who also lost her baby not to long ago. I wanted to share it with you all.
The way to treat a Mother who is grieving
Please Be Gentle
By Jill B. Englar
Please be gentle with me for I am grieving.
The sea I swim in is a lonely one
and the shore seems miles away.
Waves of despair numb my soul
as I struggle through each day.
My heart is heavy with sorrow.
I want to shout and screamand repeatedly ask ‘why?’
At times, my grief overwhelms me
and I weep bitterly,so great is my loss.
Please don’t turn away
or tell me to move on with my life.
I must embrace my pain
before I can begin to heal.
Companion me through tears
and sit with me in loving silence.
Honor where I am in my journey,
not where you think I should be.
Listen patiently to my story,
I may need to tell it over and over again.
It’s how I begin to grasp the enormity of my loss.
Nurture me through the weeks and months ahead.
Forgive me when I seem distant and inconsolable.
A small flame still burns within my heart,
and shared memories may trigger
both laughter and tears.
I need your support and understanding.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve.
I must find my own path.
Please, will you walk beside me?
Don’t worry about making me cry.
- sarah...thank you for sharing this. as someone who has also experienced loss, i know just how true this poem is. when we lost our baby(ies), i didn't want to talk to anyone. if i wanted to cry, i'd cry. if i wanted to lay in all day, i did. the one constant in my life was/is my husband. i couldn't be more than one room away from him or i'd go crazy. i would not have survived had it not been for him. he & i (along with our families) helped each other get through some of the most difficult times. and, i know you & taylor have such a strong bond & such a great family support system to survive this. and, the poem is right...there's no wrong way or right way to grieve. you have to grieve in your own way...whatever that might be. but, i have faith that you'll find your way through this loss...with God's help. i have been praying, am praying & will continue to pray for you, taylor & your families.