I am sitting here on my deck again this morning. I have a splitting headache. The past couple of days have been almost unbearable. I have not stopped crying. As soon as I wake up I start thinking about Mamie and replaying everything in my head. Why did this have to happen to us????????????? I want my baby so bad I feel like I am drowning.
So many of my friends are due right now. Katy had her sweet little boy yesterday. I am so happy for her but also it makes me very sad. On Monday Lindsey came over for her last belly picture. We were about a week apart in our pregnancies and I documented her belly for her as she grew and changed. She told me that she was scheduled for a c-section on Tuesday, the 14th. I couldn't help it and started crying. My due date was Monday, the 13th and oh how I wish Mamie would be coming into our lives that day.
I pray more than ever now. I pray that He will take this pain away, give me strength and comfort. Sometimes I just wish I could take a pill and make myself numb to all of this. I know He is there right by my side and is crying with me.
Taylor is being so strong for me. Sometimes I wish he would just let his guard down and cry with me. I know he hates to see me like this and wants to be my rock. I couldn't imagine not having Taylor in my life. He is such an amazing husband. He is my sole mate. We have decided to go to a support group at St. Vincent. The first meeting is this Sunday at 2. I am very ready to go and visit with other parents who are dealing with the same loss. I think this will be good for us.
Dr. Sellers called and the full pathology report is back. We are going in next Tuesday to go over everything. He told me that we will be able to have more children in the future which calmed my fears a bit. I thought I would be able to since I carried Mamie into the middle of my 37th week. She was full term. But hearing it out of the mouth of the doctor we love and trust so much just made us feel better. He said once I am past the postpartum weeks we will start lab work on me. I am really not sure but I think it might have to do with my blood. I guess we will know everything on Tuesday.
My family has been so amazing through all of this. I feel like they must be getting tired of taking care of me. I have only left the house a few days and as soon as I do I want to go back home. Yesterday Britney and I went to Barbara Graves to get me a few new bra's. One of the ladies who has worked there forever was very happy to see us come in. She was helping people but when she walked past me she said something about how's the baby? I turned and broke down into tears. She knew I was pregnant but obviously didn't hear that we lost Mamie. I know this probably won't be the first time this happens, but I hope it doesn't happen again for a long time.
Taylor and I went in for our big ultrasound this morning. I am 18 weeks along now, so they were checking out our baby boy closely. They found 2 genetic markers that caused a red flag. One cyst on the brain and his kidneys are enlarged. We need lots of prayers right now. Prayers for these markers to disappear and for our baby boy to be healthy. We also need prayers for our sanity as we wait, hope and pray. We will go back for another ultrasound in 8 weeks (March 31). We were told not to look this up on the internet and would appreciate only positive comments on this situation. God is good and we are leaving it in His hands. Thanks for your prayers, Sarah
I have not lost a full term baby, but I did lose a baby at 11 weeks and can totally relate to feel like people are tired of taking care of you or hearing about it all. Hang in there. You will probably feel like no one is hurting anymore when you still feel like you did the day Mamie passed. Those are normal feelings. Just try to keep communication with your husband open that way he knows how you are feeling and vise versa. Sending lots of hugs your way.
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